The Lie That Turns Sex Into Abuse

It’s not sex that corrupts.
It’s not desire that perverts.
It’s the lie.
It’s denial that creates abuse.

We’ve been taught to fight our impulses as if they were enemies. To cover them with shame and morality. But energy doesn’t vanish under a lid. It compresses. It churns. And the more we push it away, the more it grows.

A denied impulse becomes a tyrant.
An acknowledged impulse becomes fire in service of consciousness.

Saint Anthony knew this without knowing. He retreated into the desert to escape lust, only to be haunted by visions of naked women he called “demons.”
Maybe it wasn’t the devil.
Maybe it was Life itself, whispering:
“You can’t kill the fire.
You can only bring it to light.”

But he resisted.
He built the cage.
And that model became law: flee the flesh to feel pure.
Since then, that fracture runs through us. And denial feeds shame, fear… and abuse.

The “Temptation of Saint Anthony” became one of the most depicted scenes in Western art. Paintings and sculptures of naked women intertwined with monsters and devils.Like a vivid reminder of the system’s obsession with trapping us in guilt for our own desires. A mythology designed to make us fear the very force that gives us life.

And even today, when we look at neo-tantra.
How many self-proclaimed teachers end up at the heart of scandals?
Not because they love sex too much, but because they hide behind purity while burning in silence. They preach transcendence without ever facing their own shadow. And the day the mask cracks, the impulse erupts. Wild. Uncontained.

Real transcendence isn’t escape.

It’s the courage to walk through the shadow without getting lost. To go deep into the pulse of desire, not to consume it, but to discover what feeds it. Where longing stops being a trap and becomes initiation.

I learned this in my own body.

A year ago, I met a woman on an app. We chose to met for Sunday morning forest walk. She arrived late, laughing as she apologized:
“I stopped for coffee… I just got out of some wild sex with a guy I met yesterday.”
Her blunt honesty shocked me. But a voice inside whispered: honor her truth.

So while we walked I shared about my work in energetic sexuality. She didn’t seem like someone drawn to this kind of practice but was listening with curiosity. I thought it wasn’t her world.

Then, in a clearing, she looked at me and said: “Can we try?”

We sat facing each other.
I explained the posture, the breath.
She closed her eyes.

Thirty seconds later, a vortex opened. Energy surged from my perineum into hers, rose to her heart, circled back to me in a living loop, growing stronger with every breath. She moaned softly, lips trembling:
“It feels like I’m being penetrated by the entire planet.”

And then the fire hit me.
Raw.
Primal.
The urge to take her. There. Against a tree. I felt it rising from deep inside me, fast, unstoppable. And I knew, if I didn’t speak, I’d lose my center.

I choose truth and lay my desire bare. Instantly, the fire stops owning me. It was still there, incandescent, but it no longer controlling me.

That day, I understood something simple:
What we hide owns us.
What we name sets us free.

The danger isn’t in our desires.
It’s in the war we wage against them.

Because the energy we use to fight them only feeds them. And one day, they take control.

Transcendence, the real kind, is not beyond the flesh. It begins when we embrace the animal in full light. When the fire is neither demon nor master, but rather a passage into consciousness.

The Sacred Dimension of Sexual Energy

Sexuality, in its most conscious form, is far more than an act or a craving: it is the direct expression of our vital energy, the deep current that moves us, connects us to life, and vibrates through every cell.

Across countless traditions such as Taoism, Tantra, Yoga, Qigong, sexual energy is seen as the primal creative force, the same pulse that animates life, birth, and the heartbeat of the cosmos.

When directed with presence, this energy nourishes the body, awakens the subtle centers, opens the heart, clarifies the mind. Alone or with a partner, it can be transmuted, consciously guided through the body, activating the entire energetic system.

In this approach, sexuality becomes a path of union, of inner and outer alchemy. A field where desire ceases to be an escape and turns into a sacred impulse, a gateway to self-knowledge and a living path to awakening.

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